“Toxic” people can be a lot to handle.
Interacting with them is stressful, upsetting, perplexing, and puts us in real binds.
In the face of such torment the conventional wisdom around “toxic” people says we need to cut them out of our lives unceremoniously and without delay.
“They’re just too far gone, you see. There’s nothing you can do! You deserve a life without their toxicity.”
Sounds simple enough, right?
While this might be easy to do if the “toxic” person is someone we never really have to see or interact with again, following through with this kind advice isn’t as straightforward if that “toxic” person is someone we can’t really just run from, like our father, sister, boss, or landlord. We don’t always have complete control over who gets to be in our lives and who doesn’t. And not for nothing, but in our heart of hearts we might actually want to save and sustain some of these “toxic” relationships if we could.
So what are we to do?Read More